Skip to main content

What even is the "girlfriend experience" and what makes it your specialty? - Ayla Answers

Hello and welcome to the first of (what I hope will become) a series called Ayla Answers.

The girlfriend experience is a nebulous concept that seems to have sprung up from those seeking something something different to its sister, the porn star experience. PSE and GFE, respectively, are essentially different styles of dates and experiences that vary depending on the limits or restrictions of the worker offering them. Typically, the porn star experience is centered around having sex in myriad positions with endless energy that frankly I'm terribly impressed by. Sometimes PSE includes anal along with multiple positions, but the thing that seems to define the PSE is the classic explosive finish all over the worker's face and/or tits at the end. I say typically and everything, please keep in mind that in this industry YMMV is the name of the game here and you have to shop around to find what you're looking for and be willing to pay for it. Now, enough about the PSE, GFE's older sister. The girlfriend experience is what you're here for. The following will be about my personal definition of the girlfriend experience as this is ultimately meant to answer this question for potential clients. From here on out, please note that this is not the definitive definition of girlfriend experience.

All disclaimers and context done,

What even is the "girlfriend experience" and what makes it your specialty?

Well. That heading was unnecessary.

According to yours truly, the girlfriend experience is frankly everything I offer (and therefore my specialty) because I don't know how to turn it off. I can theoretically do straight bng or quickie appointments but they're certainly not my favourite kind of appointment. I love when we get to talk, snuggle up, let the tension build. This isn't to say I delay getting to the sexy bits, just that I find more enjoyment in my work when I'm allowed to work the way my magic goes! I interpret girlfriend experience as developing a connection between provider and client where we can explore that space between stranger and confidant, between fuckbuddy and advisor, between plus one and your favourite little secret. To put it another way, the girlfriend experience is a mutually beneficial relationship that develops beyond acquaintances in both the bedroom and outside it, where both parties are happy with what they're receiving from the arrangement. Just like keeping a regular girlfriend happy with gifts, compliments, and dates, these too are part of the girlfriend experience. I see myself as the girlfriend you can hit pause with, where we can pick up where we left off without it affecting our relationship negatively. Respectful communication is obviously required for this, but honestly if you're looking for this type of relationship you typically are the type to understand that dropping off the radar without a word isn't the best way to handle changes to your life. The girlfriend experience isn't centered around sex, though it of course is a vital component, but is more centered around comfort. More indulgent, sensual experiences happen when everyone's relaxed, unrushed. It's just a fact that we're going to enjoy ourselves more when we're both not looking at the clock and just letting things happen as they do. As I said above, I enjoy myself more when we take time with each other. My dates tend to include lots of kissing, caressing, but if you're shopping for a list of acronyms posted on PERB, I'll let you have the following: dfk, daty, cbj, msog. Now, that being said, if you're shopping for acronyms, please take your leave as I want someone here for the vibes, as it were, not a checklist. I am not a restaurant with a menu where you can ask for the exact same meal every time. I am an experience of Michelin star quality and you will treat me as such! God that felt pretentious but really, treat me respectfully and listen to my no, and we'll get on just dandy.

I think I've rambled on enough for today, so let's leave it at that! Don't forget that if you enjoyed this, I deeply appreciate it when you tell me so with either a note or gift.

Without wax,
Ayla
Labels:

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

From the Winged Hussars scaring me awake, to Sabaton Open Air: My journey as a Sabaton fan (the Intro)

I have a thing for long titles. I'm pretty sure that's from my love of bands like Fall Out Boy, Panic! At The Disco, Cobra Starship, Paramore... you get it. Anyways, I cannot in good conscience begin this introduction to the blog series I'm going to be doing without showing you the title properly formatted, so here you are: From the Winged Hussars scaring me awake, to Sabaton Open Air: My Journey as a Sabaton fan The Introduction I once said in high school that I should have my poetic license revoked for using such flowery language. Unfortunately for you all, no such thing has occurred and I remain as flowery as my aunt's old acreage, Kickass Ranch. This is going to be a blog series of three parts? Maybe four? Think of it like Eragon. It was supposed to be a trilogy as initially imagined by Christopher Paolini, but it eventually turned into a saga as one part had to be split into two. I don't think this will be quite so dramatic about it, if it goes that way. The pl...
Post a Comment
Read more

FMTY and travel thoughts- Part 1

  Fly Me To Yous- A dream come true for both parties!                I love the idea of being whisked off to another country by someone. It's so romantic, and while the dream is normally an impulsive weekend getaway, I must admit I'm a sucker for planning trips and the anticipation. It's a worthwhile stress, planning a trip. If you're like me, you spend hours looking at different hotels, weighing pros and cons for each one like "This one is far from *insert interesting spot here* but it's cheaper, is that worth it?" or "Ooo but this one has breakfast cooked to order for NO SURCHARGE" <-- that one there is a dream, not a reality. I've never seen this but if you find me such a hotel... I will be very appreciative. And for a client, potential date, whatever you'd like to be called, I'm sure it's a fantastic experience! Finding someone you'd love to spend time with, and making it happen despite distance? Or making the trip of a...
Post a Comment
Read more

Great Googly Moogly, it's all gone to shit!

Great googly moogly, it's all gone to shit! Gah. How to start.  The most logical place is at the beginning I suppose, but it's much more fun to drop you straight into the action. I'm in a bra and panties, draped on the shining black bench of a baby grand piano. The black bra with red lace that I love so much accentuates my curves perfectly (I mean, it is a push-up bra, if it didn't help with aesthetics, I'd return the damn thing). My thighs are slightly apart, back arched, head tipped back, my hair cascading down my back... and 1 angry guy at the door.  "This is a family-friendly environment!"  Right... at 2pm on a Friday, while the cheeldrens are still in school, with the main window covered and a secondary window that's hidden from major lookage not covered but not exactly super visible,  barely anyone there, no kids in sight, sure it is. Whoops, I guess. I'm at the VSO's school of music. To be honest with you, I'm still feeling a littl...
Post a Comment
Read more